Self Love on Valentine’s Day

  Valentine’s Day is almost upon us or some celebrate this weekend due to expenses on the actual day. I was going to be bitter this year but being bitter doesn’t get us anywhere. This is the first Valentine’s Day in seven years where I do not have a Valentine that is not related to me. 2016 was a rough year in my love life and with rough patches in relationships; confidence, motivation and self doubt happens. However, this is not a bitter or sad post. This blog is not just a weight loss journey for myself. I am practicing health that goes beyond the scale.

   I am here to tell myself and all of you Valentine Dateless readers that you are loved. You love yourself. If you struggle with this (like myself) then I suggest practicing self love this Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day is just a day. Yes, the hearts and lovey dovey posts are everywhere, but don’t be bitter. If someone truly loved you..they would be with you everyday of the year. If they truly loved you then they would never make you question your self worth. Again, it is just a day. People feel the need to construct holidays as ONE special day. This ONE special day should be looked at EVERYDAY. This also includes loving yourself.

 A little about myself… I used to construct holidays as ONE special day. I was rather obsessed with it. I used to over think a lot when Christmas, Valentine’s Day, my birthday, and other holidays would happen. If it did not go as planned in my head; I would get depressed. Not only the holiday for myself but I would get high anxiety about giving gifts. I wanted everything to be perfect. Again..this is only ONE day and should not define you or any relationship.

 Anyway, all my single readers (relationship readers this could count towards you too!) forget about that day and practice self love. You are the only thing you can control in your life. If you are not happy then go out and change it! Sometimes we make decisions that hurt others but you need to be happy. Life is too short to be miserable and bullied around. Do things that make you happy. Take care of yourself. Surround yourself with people who will be around you more then that ONE day.

Here is the break down of my self loving Valentine’s Day:

-I will go to spin class at 6am. I will start right away with showing myself that I care about myself with exercise. Spin is something I enjoy and staying in shape is something my body deserved.

-I will eat a healthy breakfast and most likely watch RuPaul’s Drag Race. Eating all my meals shows I love to keep my body fueled. RuPaul’s Drag Race is a show I enjoy and keeps me stress free.

-Before my shower, I will do a face mask. I actually purchased a LUSH Valentine’s Day gift for myself this morning. I care about my skin and since I am getting older; I am trying to take better care of it. Also, treat yourself! If you have the funds, purchase something that makes you happy. 

-I am going to work for most of the day but I will make sure to get dressed up and put on some pretty lip stick. This will show my students and fellow faculty members that I care about my appearance and I feel so beautiful when I dress up.

-When I get home, I am not sure what a I will do right away. I may do some more work or I will crochet the blanket I am working on. I enjoy prep and grading for it helps me focus and not be behind on deadlines. Crocheting is something I love because it makes me feel less stressed.

-Finally, I plan to get ice cream (will count Weight Watcher points) with my girlfriends. It is important to have self love but it is important to show respect and compassion to the people in your life. I plan to do this with my parents too. However, it shouldn’t be only on this ONE day. It should be everyday. 

 You should find love within yourself and show appreciation and love to the people who stay in your life. Life is rocky and the ones who decide to stay and not leave..well they are the best people to keep with you. They know your best and worst days and are willing to stick with you. Not only that but you decide to stick around their best and worst.

 I know self love is sometimes hard to achieve. You’re reading the best example of someone who does struggle with it. It takes time and it is not easy. Which time and work, you can do it. I know I can do it.

Happy Valentine’s Day everyone! Love yourself and remember how awesome you are. 

The Best Night of my Life

The shooting in Orlando was a terrible tradgey. It really hurt my heart to hear something like this happened to a community that is all about love and acceptance.

 Over the last year I joined in events with the gay community. Mostly drag shows to be specific. I am not a homosexual but I believe that life is worth living. We can not go through life worrying and hating. Life should be about loving who you are and the people around you. Again, love and acceptance. This community has showed me this. For the first time EVER in my life I love myself. I feel comfortable in my own skin because I feel I am not judged and I can be myself.

On July 21st, Philadelphia did a charity event for the tradgedy in Orlando. All the bars in the Gayborhood opened their doors if you had a wrist band. You could jump from bar to bar and not worry what to do because there were so many events. I went with two girlfriends of mine. The night was amazing.

Never have I witnessed so many people together for one event. No fights, no judgment and no worries. Everywhere we went we met so many people. We did things we never did before such as dance for hours. 

 Glitter thrown onto our bodies, accidently giving a drag queen a $20, catching Pokemon in the middle of the street and running into people from your home town. To end the night we sang Seasons of Love at the top of our lungs. In the past I would have recorded it but living in the moment was ten times sweeter.

I did not have any negative thoughts, I felt confident and comfortable. It was a night I will always remember and it was all for a good cause. The event raised 70,000 that night. It is an amazing feeling I was apart of this loving and accepting night.

This community has really changed my outlook on life. 

 However, I am still finding glitter in my room and bathroom a week later!


My Boyfriend Has Lost Over 50 lbs


I am so proud of my boyfriend. He has lost over 50 lbs. His dedication and commitment to losing weight and being healthy is amazing. I look up to his motivation and mind set right now. I have seemed to lost what he has. He is my inspiration right now.
I am so proud he has decided to live a healthier life. I want him to be healthy and to feel good about himself.
I noticed changes too. He seems to have more energy and he does not snore really loud in his sleep. He looks slimmer especially in his face. Also his pants are SOOO baggy. He also watches what he orders at restaurants. I am so happy for him.




Three cheers for Brian!! I hope he reaches his goal. Also I hope I have a gym partner soon! =P